I was talking to my roommate last night about her and her boyfriend, and it brought up some interesting thoughts on what love really is.
We talked about two different aspects of love. There should be a balance of both in any healthy relationship, and we think when a couple finds the magic point halfway between these two things, they can find true happiness and love.
The first aspect of love we talked about is emotional. I wouldn’t want to date someone who was ugly or mean to me.
We decided the emotional aspect, which sometimes comes back to hurt you, is absolutely necessary.
But you can’t base your relationship on feelings only. Feelings can change. What happens when you don’t like that person anymore? Can you still love them?
This is where the serious part comes into play. We talked about how she’s getting a little more serious in her relationship, so she’s looking at things like religion, money, and household roles and making sure her boyfriend is on the same page as her.
Love isn’t all emotional. You have to use your head a little bit, too, as hard as that may be when someone really cute wants your number.
Our consensus was that we can’t live without those things in a relationship. If you’re too emotional, you end up making bad choices. If you’re too practical, then you won’t ever be truly happy.
I think my roommate’s right about this, because she seems to have a great relationship with her boyfriend. Time will tell, I guess, whether or not they’ll succeed…